I want to state here and now that it is absolutely senseless for a girlfriend or boyfriend to be unhappy and still decide to stay in the relationship. Anyone who is ‘enduring’ this is still there for reasons beyond love.
If you are unhappy in a mere relationship and then be rest assured that marriage will be worse! Soulmates don’t hurt the soul and sweethearts don’t make the heart bleed.
Your suspicions are very likely to be true and if you will pay your instincts and intuition a little more attention, you will know beyond any doubt that you are in the wrong place with the wrong human.
The test for a blissful marriage is most likely a blissful relationship. If you can’t communicate now; when? If you can’t openly share now; when? If you can’t be your true self with them now; when? If you can’t trust them now; when? If you can’t respect them now; when? If you can’t trust them around your friends now; when?
Relationships are supposed to be blissful because you both have decided, out of your own free will, to commit to each other and establish a connection that can guarantee, to some degree, a happy marriage, and a fulfilling future. No one is forcing you; no church, mosque, court, parents, friends, pastors, counselors, siblings, friends, and so on.
What then prevents you from walking out and finding another person to try and establish this critical connection with? Some of you have invested so much time, money, sex, assets, patience, emotions into the relationship that leaving seems to be a waste of your life, so instead of leaving and trying again, you decide to endure, hope, and pray for the best.
Honey, you are the best, don’t waste it on the worst! Remember, it is only a relationship; you don’t need a court order to leave it!
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